Kimberly Clark welcomes your questions on love and relationships. She will do her utmost to provide you with a straightforward and insightful answer that is also grounded in the Word of GOD.
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Q:Although I have no proof, I have this nagging suspicion that my man is cheating on me and I’ve been feeling this way for a while. How can I really know for sure?
-OG
A:First of all, don’t underestimate your instincts. God created women to be perceptive, so don’t ignore your divinely bestowed talents. Chances are, if you feel like something is not quite right in your relationship, then you are probably right. Of course that doesn’t necessarily mean he’s stepping out on you.
You have to voice your concerns to your man. Let him know that you feel like something is out of sorts with your relationship. Then ask him point blank if he is cheating on you.
For most men, you will also have to go the extra distance and ask them whether or not they’ve kissed another woman (or man) or if they’ve had sexual intercourse (both oral and penetration) with another person. The reason you have to break it down like this is because men tend to have very limited viewpoints on what is considered cheating. Many of them actually think that as long as they don’t insert their penises into other people, they are still being faithful.
Now if he says he is not cheating, you then need to ask him to help you figure out why you are having so many misgivings and thus feeling like something is wrong between the two of you. Maybe he stares too long or too often at attractive women. Or perhaps he’s always someplace other than where he said he would be. It might just be a lack of communication and honesty that is breeding the distrust you feel.
If you still have your doubts, after openly discussing the issue with your man, let me know. I know a good private investigator I can refer you to.
-Kim
Q:I recently was invited to go on a 3 day 2 night trip with my boyfriend (my man) for the weekend. I was a bit shocked when he asked me to go. See we have been together off and on for about 7 years and this is the first time he has every invited me on a trip for just the two of us. So my question to you would be; what are the 3 thing that you take on a trip? And what do you think he is up to?
-KH
A:Well congratulations girl. I think that he has finally come to his senses and realized that he needs to step up his game, if he wants to keep a good girl like you by his side. You didn’t mention where he’s taking you, so I’m assuming the destination is going to be a surprise for you. Whenever I ‘m going on a trip that has an undefined agenda, I always make sure I pack the following things:
1.a pair of jeans (the ones that stop traffic)
2.a nice white shirt
3.a black skirt or pair of pants
These three items combined with whatever else you plan on taking will ensure that you are prepared and appropriately dressed for all of the trip’s activities.
Have fun and be good. -Kim
Q:How can I tell if my man really loves me? -JD
A:It’s simple girlfriend.Ask yourself if he would die for you.If you can honestly answer yes to that question, then you know he really loves you.Remember the Bible says that a man should love his wife (or gal), like Jesus loved the church(Ephesians 5:25).And we all know what Jesus did for the church.
Now, this doesn’t mean that you have to wait for him to take a bullet for you, before you can say for sure that he loves you.There are a lot of figurative bullets out there that you can see if he'll dodge. For instance, is he willing to make extreme sacrifices to make you happy?Like work 2 jobs to give you the life you want and deserve.
